existentialism, frenemies in the workplace, and yoga thoughts.
Mar 7, 2017
What our friends say.
It's Tuesday, March 7th and we're almost 25% done with 2017. Where did the time go? How did work weeks pass by so quickly? What did you do last weekend? Really, think hard about this one...
Like Sam Altman, president of startup accelerator Y-Combinator once reflected, "The days are long but the decades are short."
There's a ton of messaging and marketing today around living in the moment, but what does that really mean?
In his memoir, Tuesdays with Morrie, Mitch, a former student now successful sports columnist, interviews his 78 year old sociology professor who is dying from ALS. What began as an interview turned into routine Tuesday sessions, just like class, but this time with Morrie teaching Mitch lessons on how to live.
There's one particular quote by Morrie that stuck out to me: "You don't know how to live until you know how to die."
Oooooooh boy. Let's take it easy since it's morning. The take-away here might be how we can let death motivate us to live thoroughly in the present.
And only to you. Not to your mom, your boss, or your best friend. Pause and take some time to understand what a life well-lived really looks like for you. What do you want to be, do, and have? See all seven continents? Create a family? Author a book? Invent something that leaves a lasting legacy? Give back in a big way?
Let's make sure we're not measuring our lives with other people's yardsticks.
2) Contemplate how embarrassment weakens you.
Scott Adams, creator of the Dilbert series, says the most important quality successful people possess is "lack of fear of embarrassment." Is this stopping you from going for it? The fear of what people might think, say, or do? You can minimize this fear when you get real about it. To combat it…
One common obstacle holding high performers back in the workplace is speaking up and having principled confrontations (data-backed, of course).
Yet at the end of the day, it's all about perspective. Without pondering death too much, we can do a lot of things to focus on the present. For example, focusing on your food at lunch. No distractions – no phone, no talking to people. Note how many chews you take, what the texture of your food is like, and any other thoughts about your lunch that you've passed over for small talk with colleagues.
(s/o to theFOMO reader David N. for sharing this one!)
Keep our friends close but keep our enemies closer...or so the saying goes. But unfortunately for us, humans are incredi-bad at telling who our rivals are.
We're good at identifying friends because it fosters reciprocity whereas rivalry originates in comparison. That is to say, we're constantly competing with people who we think are a little bit better than us, both inside and outside of our immediate work place. Therefore it's not uncommon for someone to get blindsided by office politics from someone competing upwards with them.
We've all got those corporate frenemies. On the other hand, the good news is if someone wants to be our friend, we're probably right.
Got that friend or co-worker you talk alot about "life" stuff with?
Whether or not you practice yoga, each session in and of itself could be a new experience with new moves and postures. But as much as yoga preaches zen and calm, for many beginners, it could be equally stress inducing; I mean, what is chatarunga anyways?
Here are a couple of our "all-to-real" moment favorites from fitness editor Molly Ritterbeck:
2. Walk Into the Studio
"Where is the instructor? How does everyone already know what to do? I want to go home."
14. Go Through a Vinyasa
“WHY DOESN’T ANYONE ELSE LOOK LIKE THEY’RE STRUGGLING?” :(!
21. Corpse Pose
"THIS is my purpose. This is the meaning of life." ahhhh