We’ve been conditioned our entire lives to think advancement in our careers as a “getting” process: get a job, get a promotion, get retirement. The problem with this phrase and mindset is that it is extremely unhealthy. We don’t get things. We earn things — it's a give and take.
We don’t get a job. Our skill sets are sold to the most favorable bidder. We strike a deal with the labor market.
We don’t get a promotion. Our salary should be a reflection of our performance. We negotiate a pay and title bump.
We don’t get retirement. Our time has been contributed over decades. We paid our dues to society.
Haseeb Qureshi, engineer at AirBnb puts it this way:
“'When people talk about the labor market, they think “oh, a company wants to give me a job! What a relief!” As though having a job were in itself some special privilege for which a company is the gatekeeper."
The point is, career progression is a trade. Trades are meant to be competitive. And in a trade, “get” is a two-way street.