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being alone isn't lonely, gaining charisma, and stop chewing food so loudly!
Mar 8, 2017
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What our friends say.

Recently a friend of mine went to go see a movie…alone. Gasp! 

The first thing I blurted out was, “why?” 

The real question should be, “why is doing things alone still a stigma?” We don’t need your pity!

Perhaps it’s the juxtaposition of a single individual at a place built for social interaction: movie theaters, restaurants, or parks. If we’re by ourselves at a library, nobody gives it a second thought. 

Or perhaps it’s because being by ourselves marks us as being viewed as lonely. And that’s is a big no-no in society. 

Writer Grace Bains characterizes spending time alone as follows:
 
Over the centuries, we've accepted that man is a social animal. We need people around us for love and support. It is only after interacting and conversing with our fellow homo sapiens that we build friendships that last a lifetime and meet people who help us grow into the best version of ourselves.

While true, the counterpoint can be argued by American philosopher Ralph Waldo Emerson in his essay "Self Reliance,” which stresses the need for individuals to embrace solitude and nonconformity.  

Millennials are so focused on action action action that we often overlook time for reflection through solitude. Not making an argument to “disconnect,” but rather an argument that spending time alone can help us learn to enjoy our own company.

So at work today if you’re feeling the need for coffee, why not try the quick trip alone?
 
When was the last time you had "love-me-time"?
How to level up charisma.
With a show of hands (or replies?), when playing RPGs, who here levels up their character’s charisma? Yes, you know, the skill often attributed to leadership and communication — who needs that when fighting monsters anyways. 

In real life however, charisma can be a powerful character trait. It is the “X-factor” for politicians, executives, or even parents. So then begs the question, can we learn charisma?

Recent research from the University Lausanne Business School shows that yes, we can teach leadership tactics. They came up with a list of Charismatic Leadership Tactics (CLTs), including 1) using metaphors, 2) using stories and anecdotes, 3) displaying moral conviction, and 4) keeping an animated tone.

Hear, hear!

Got that friend or co-worker you talk alot about "life" stuff with? 

Get 'em onboard!
Show me the data.
Of all the pet peeves in the world, the sound of people chewing their food ranks near if not at the top. While some of us may ignore it, some people can get really, really mad. These people may have a condition called “misophonia,” where they are extremely sensitive to everyday sounds. 

In a study from the journal Current Biology, scientists studied 20 people with this condition by exposing them to three types of sounds: 1) trigger sounds (ones that evoke a misophonic reaction like eating or breathing), 2) neutral sounds like rain, and 3) unpleasant sounds like babies crying. They found that while nobody enjoyed the unpleasant sounds, the trigger sounds were the ones that actually raised misophonic individuals’ heart rates. 

So there you have it folks. Go easy with the chewing. Or if you’re eating in solitude, nom nom nom as loud as you want. 
Here's to conquering our 20s and 30s together. See you back in your inbox tomorrow!

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