Happy Pi (π) Day! And while we can’t count to the 67,891th digit of Pi (apparently that’s how you beat the Guinness world record), we are totally letting our nerd side free today.
Nerding out reminds me of a saying from my high school that went something like this regarding the student populace... “the odds are good, but the goods are odd.”
This saying couldn’t be more true in the dating pool today. Nobody wants a “scan-tron” boyfriend or girlfriend that’s just checks our boxes, we’re attracted to much more. We are attracted to each other’s rough edges! Or since we’re on Pi day, the lack thereof…
For those of us who feel like we have an authentic relationship, we may feel so because we are true to ourselves. We don’t feel artificial from putting on a facade. The real us is not acting to be someone our partner expects nor is it who we actually think we are. Rather, the real us is when we act as the person we strive to be, or our ideal selves.
In addition to this finding, research from Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin cite the Michelangelo phenomenon:
“We tend to make more progress towards our ideal selves when our partner has the same traits that we aspire to have ourselves, through encouragement or acting by example."
So instead of finding someone who likes us exactly for who we are, perhaps we should find someone who pushes us to be our ideal selves. Like attracts like after all.
Just like how we need to breathe more frequently during intense exercise, breathing more slowly can calm us down. Below are a few breathing exercises we can do to help us relax in under 10 min:
Abdominal Breathing: "One hand on the chest and the other on the belly, take a deep breath in through the nose, ensuring the diaphragm (not the chest) inflates with enough air to create a stretch in the lungs.” 6-10 deep slow breaths per minute for 10 minutes.
Alternate Nostril Breathing: "Starting in a comfortable meditative pose, hold the right thumb over the right nostril and inhale deeply through the left nostril.”
Skull Shining Breathing: "Start with a long, slow inhale, followed by a quick, powerful exhale generated from the lower belly. Once comfortable with the contraction, up the pace to one inhale-exhale (all through the nose) every one to two seconds, for a total of 10 breaths.”
Got that friend or co-worker you talk alot about "life" stuff with?
Just think about the boutique store with three racks of clothes separated by 6 inches each. Or the white-on-white-on-white furniture store that has way too much space for the amount of furniture they sell. They’re making up for the margins somehow. They’re making up for the margins because instead of us spending $100 for an IKEA table, we’re spending $1000 for a perforated marble desk that’s “part industrial, part glam.”
Minimalism and the idea of decluttering is often framed as a positive thing — even a spiritual thing. But sometimes we have to wonder if it’s another way of saying "Look at me! Look at all of the things I have refused to buy!’
Here's to conquering our 20s and 30s together. See you back in your inbox tomorrow!